Change is inevitable: While it may seem easier to stay in the comfort of a well-kept routine, change will eventually prevail. A lot of the time, change comes at the most unexpected times. From something as small as your schedule, to something as major as moving homes, getting accustomed to change is often difficult; life felt so much simpler before, afterall! In short, we get used to what was, and attached to traditions. Turning away from change doesn’t help; the world is constantly changing around us, whether we like it or not.
I realized this, when I went through one of the biggest and unexpected changes in October last year, which was losing my friend group. The close tight-knit bonds we had with each other was something I didn’t realize I would lose so soon. I had spent so much time texting and hanging out with them that they were a big part of who I was as a person and when I lost them it felt like I lost a huge part of myself. I wasn’t sure how I would recover and move forward from this change and then I realised that there are some things that we just can’t control, no matter how hard we try. Constantly worrying and being anxious over a situation that can’t be controlled will not change anything. So for me in that situation I decided to remind myself that it was not my fault and the best thing I could do for myself was try and get past this fallout. Sometimes, it feels natural to fall into a routine of obsessing and overthinking, even when there is no reason to keep on going with that endless cycle.
However, the constant overthinking can take us away from the present. Rather than staying in the moment, you can end up spending too much time in your own head. It’s difficult to stop worrying about change, especially when dealing with a problem you can’t completely control. But letting the situation play itself out can have a very positive effect on mental health.
Even though I was deeply impacted, I still continued to try my hardest in school and create closer bonds with new people. I also practiced taking care of myself and taking the time to reflect on the situation. Luckily for me I was able to form new friendships with people who supported me through out this process. Of course, it is not easy to sit back and put anxiety on hold. Still, practicing self-care and allowing yourself to look back and move forward are the best ways to help you cope with change. Another important thing to remember is that you are never alone. It is always important to remember that you can talk to somebody. Talking to a close friend/ family member/ or trusted adult, can really help you get the support you need in a stressful situation. Even when change seems like an impossible obstacle to overcome, there is always a way through. Coping with anxiety and stress is not an easy task, but prioritizing your mental health will help you grow as a person and welcome change.
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